I have been married to the same man for almost 10 years. I have always done his laundry. Wash, fold, put in drawers, hang in closet whatever. I'm pretty particular about things. He jokingly gives me a hard time because I can't stand it if the covers are wrinkled and I'll get out of bed in the middle of the night to fix them if necessary. Glasses and mugs need to be in neat rows in the cupboards etc. So it stands to reason that I'd be pretty particular about how I arrange clothes in the closet and dresser drawers, right? I can't help it that it makes me want to scream when I see two shirts with their plackets facing each other hanging in the closet! It just does, ok? So I always hang all shirts facing to the left. I also arrange them by type, fabric and color in that order. I have a little more difficult time on my side because I have so many different kinds of shirt, but Nathan has oxfords, polos -- long and short sleeved, and then special breathable golf polos. His side of the closet looks like a rainbow. Literally.
I have spent the last 9 years in various levels of irritation and disbelief when I walk into the closet, or open dresser drawers to put things away because something is always out of place. And really. How much effort does it take to reach just a bit further to the right to hang that shirt up with the long sleeved polos than in the middle of the short sleeved ones? And so I would sigh and maybe grumble and hang it where it belongs. But one day, in the not too distant past, my darling hubby was desperately searching for a particular shirt. Finally he called to me in frustration "do you know where my _____ shirt is?" "It should be hanging right there in your closet" I call back. Still he can't find it. So I walk in and immediately pick it out "It's right here with the rest of your blue polo shirts" I say. He gives me a vacant look. "You mean to tell me, that in all these years you have never once noticed that your shirts are organized and arranged by color?" "They are?" he says staring at the shirts in disbelief. "They are" I say.
And there it is. He's not doing it to spite me, or to be lazy. He doesn't realize he's making more work for me. It just never occured to him to even notice! He still doesn't notice. I could harp on him and nag him until I'm blue in the face. It's not going to change anything. He is who he is. And so, I just let it go. :) Sometimes I still get irritated, but mostly I just chuckle and move the shirt.
What about you? What have you had to let go in order to avoid hard feelings or constant irritation?
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Tuesday, April 17, 2012
Monday, February 6, 2012
Home Management Notebook: The Skeleton
I got to thinking that I should share not only the forms that I used and created, but the pieces that make up the binder itself as well.
I made the dividers by getting Avery half sized sheet protectors. It turned out really well because there were 15 sheet protectors in the pack and I had 14 dividers plus my mission statement. I wanted pretty dividers so I designed the dividers to match the front cover. Then I slipped 2 copies into each page protector so that it would be double sided and a little firmer. I made tabs that fold in half so I could see them from both sides, and then I just used packing tape to attach them to the page protector. The tabs download has both the tabs for the HMN and for my Bill Pay binder. I apologise for that. I included a blank background for the dividers, and also a background with a blank square in case you like my dividers but the names of your sections are different than mine. There's also a page that I intended to be my back cover. I ended up not being able to use it since there's no clear view pocket on the back of this particular binder, but I really liked it, so I chose to just leave it there.
Lastly, here are some links to business card holders similar to the ones I purchased,
(I didn't see this one before, but I think I like it better!) and theclear zippered pouch.
For the actual shell I used and Avery Binder. You can find an Avery view binder, 5.5"X8.5" size at your local staples or you can find them on Amazon or online office supply stores. I personally decided to use this comfort touch binder from Avery. It has more of a "planner" feel to it. Avery also makes a binder this size with a pocket attached to the inside front cover that I really liked and almost decided to buy.
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| Click here to download the Covers and Divider sheets Click here for the tabs |
Lastly, here are some links to business card holders similar to the ones I purchased,
(I didn't see this one before, but I think I like it better!) and theclear zippered pouch.
Tuesday, January 31, 2012
Home Management Notebook Pages: Calendar and Daily Docket
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| Click here to dowload Important Dates template |
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| Click here to download the 2012 Calendar |
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| Click here to download my Daily Docket |
First of all is my TO DO list for the day, it may be things from my Master To Do list, phone calls and errands Nathan has asked for my help on, or something from my calendar, etc. As Tsh points out on her blog, the important thing is to keep the list short--no more than 10 things in addition to my daily routines--it's less overwhelming that way, and I'm more likely to actually feel the sense of accomplishment that comes with finishing my to do list for the day. Then I go through and pick out the 3 most important things. Things that absolutely MUST get done today and put them on the Most Important Things list at the top of the page. Requests that Nathan has made are usually at the top. Since his Love Language is Acts of Service, part of my efforts to show my love in tangible ways is to make sure his requests are a priority.
There is a space to write down what's for dinner today and what's for dinner tomorrow to keep me mindful of what I need to do for prep work. Maybe I need to soak some beans or get some meat out of the freezer or whatever.
I'm trying to start memorizing a scripture verse a week or a passage in a month or two, depending on the length so since I look at the docket several times daily, I included a space for scripture.
There is a section titled "reminders" for things from my personal growth goals or maybe something I'm trying to work on with one of the boys.
The small box in the center helps me to be mindful of health and fitness. I find I have to force myself to drink especially in the winter. I never have enough to drink in a day, so I included 8 little pictures of water glasses that I can cross off to remind me do get my 8 glassses a day. Under "workout" I can plan my excercise deliberately.
And in case of an appointment or two, or a bunch--depending on the day-- I included a section for appointments or a general plan of what time I'd like to start certain routines or whatever.
Finally, there's a "notes" section at the bottom for when the phone rings or if I think of something or whatever. Then later I can transfer the important stuff that needs to be saved to the other sections.
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Monday, January 23, 2012
Home Management Notebook
If you follow any organizing or homekeeping type blogs, you've probably heard of a Home Management Notebook (or Homemaking Journal or Family Binder) there are a dozen names for them. So, this won't really be a new idea to you, but I'm going to share mine with you, because it's such a huge part of how I plan to meet my goals for the New Year.
I have always loved planners. They're so cute. They're for organized people, which I desperately want to be I can really waste some time looking at them online and in Office Supply Stores! I've bought a handful of them over the years, and I always intend to use them, but it lasts a couple weeks, maybe and then I put them aside. They're not designed for me. I don't have bunches of daily appointments I'm a mom, and before that I was a student. I had class schedules that were pretty unvarying, and a set work schedule. I have always been a list maker, but I don't have much interest in handwriting a bunch of phone numbers and addresses in the back of my planner every time I get a new one, so that was a huge waste of space. I would always look at the daily planning sheets and think of ways I could change it to make it usable for me, but I never actually thought I could do that. With the Home Management Notebook, I can! The great thing about these Journals is that I can tailor them completely to suit what I need. In most ways, I think my HMN is pretty similar to most you will see out there; but it differs in a couple of important ways.
I recently read a statistic that basically said every one minute you spend on organization will save you 10 minutes down the road. I believe it!! If I take the time to sit down in the morning and make a list of things that need to be done that day, most of them will get crossed off. If I just take things as they come, nothing gets done! So I took an inventory of all the hats I wear. I was not being truly efficient in all of those roles! Sometimes I find myself staring into space wondering where to start. Which is the most important? Should I start "A" or "B" first? Which will take longer? It's kind of discouraging when I lose track of time, or when I completely forget about the phone call Nathan asked me to make until he walks in the door at night. Mental clutter. I'm trying to store everything that needs to be done, what time, details in my brain, and then on top of that there are the things that I really would like to do. No wonder my husband teases me about being so forgetful. I really would forget my head if it weren't attached, sometimes!So, the number one reason for making this Home Management Notebook was ... to make me a better, more efficient home manager. That's my job, after all! The best way to do that is to keep everything all in one spot so that I always know exactly where to find what I need.
The first difference in my HMN is that it is only part of a larger system. I'll go more into that later.
Probably the main difference between my HMN and others that I've looked at is size. I've seen them from 1" to 2" binders. The problem I see with that, is they're too bulky to carry around. I want to be able to have mine on hand at all times so that when something comes to mind, I can write it down before I forget ... because I will forget! Or if someone calls me on the phone, I can take notes -- even if I'm not at home. Or if I'm chatting with one of my girlfriends at church and we want to set up a coffee date, or a playdate, or ... whatever, I can check my schedule and/or write stuff down right then. So, instead of a conventional 1" or 2" binder, I opted for 5.5" by 8.5" binder with 1" rings.
This posed a bit of a problem, since about all the printables available either for free, or to purchase online are 8.5"X11". So I made my own. Basically, I found a look that I liked on Life ... Your Way and imitated it. Actually, I downloaded all of the forms from there that I felt pertained to me and used them as models. I copied them pretty closely, but with a few minor alterations and in a smaller size.Then I took other forms that I liked and did the same, modifying the fonts and such so that they matched. It might not be a big deal for some, but I wanted a theme in my binder, not just random forms. Anyway, they will be up here on my blog for free download very soon.
It's important for everyone to come up with their own categories that will work for their specific needs, but here is what I came up with. This is a general overview, later I'll put links with pictures.
The very first page in my HMN is my Mission Statement. I keep it here as a visual reminder every time I open my notebook -- several times a day -- of the best version of myself, and who I am trying to become. The whole reason for having the notebook in the first place!
Calendar: Here I keep a simple monthly calendar with Holidays. It has a column on the far right side for important dates coming up in the next month and an area for notes at the bottom. I also keep my daily dockets in this section. And a list of birthdays and anniversaries by month.
Routines: this is invaluable to me. Instead of a set schedule for every day, I need felxibility, but I can't keep the clutter of the daily mundane in my head, or little things will get over looked. A lot of my ideas for this section came from the FlyLady. A few others came from Pinterest :).
Menus: Here I keep my master meal plans, monthly meal plans, and daily meal plans with shopping list.
Planning: My master to do list, you know, as well as lists of projects I want to complete. I have them categorized by crafting, home improvement & decorating, and personal growth goals (this includes spiritual growth). I also have a list titled Christmas in July. I'll have a post on that later.
Shopping: this is just where I store extra copies of my simple, two column shopping lists.
Notes: Agan, very simple, but I want to have everything in one place. I'm sick of bits of paper here and there and never being able to find the one I need!
Cleaning: This is my cleaning routine. Again, I will have a post later on how this works for me. I took several ideas for this section from FlyLady as well.
Maintenance: Here's where I keep a written record of maintenance done to the van, and to the house. So when something comes up, I know exactly where to find out what we've had done, when, how much it cost, and who did it.
Inventories: I'm keeping an inventory of my pantry and freezer so I never run out of staples, and so that I don't buy duplicates. A quick check to these lists when I'm making my shopping lists will keep me from wasting money, or from frustration when I go to make a mean, only to discover I don't have what I thought I did. Also in this section I will eventually have a complete inventory of clothing that I have for the boys, so if I run across some good sales or a great yard sale, I'll be able to purchase exactly what I need rather than guessing and trying to remember -- more mental clutter!
Garden: Right now this is empty, but I hope to fill it with plans for a vegetable garden, frost dates in spring and fall, and flowers and shrubs that worked and those that didn't.
Blogging: Blogging by the seat of my pants didn't work. It's more mental clutter and I would constantly come up with ideas for blog posts, then forget what they were before I had a chance to write them. Here I keep a comprehensive list of ideas. I'll share my form with you later.
Account Info: This one I went back and forth on for quite a while, I wasn't sure I wanted to keep it in something I carry everywhere, but I need it with me in case I'm out. I you struggle with remembering all my user names and passwords for websites that I use? I'm afraid to ever change them for fear I'll forget what they are and I tend to use the same 2 or 3 for everything. More mental clutter trying to remember all that stuff all the time! I keep another copy in my Bill Pay Binder just in case my HMN is ever lost or stolen, I can quickly change all my passwords and not worry so much about hackers and identity thieves.
Financial: I'm tracking my spending for a while so I can figure out exactly where the money I'm spending is going. We've done this before and it is really effective. I have a really good budget on mint.com which I highly recommend, but sometimes I end up wondering how I went over in "that category" or forget that iIbought this or that. I also think we might have need for a few additional categories in our budget. This is a means to an end and temporary or intermittent, but I think it's important to keep it available if we ever need it.
Contacts: I bought a few pages of business card holders for day planners. They fit perfectly in here so that when we find a contractor we like I can just stick his business card in there and I know who to call if I have a problem! I thought about keeping my Christmas card list here, but I think I'll opt for a shorter list of people I send mail to often. I keep important phone numbers in my cell, so I have absolutely no need for phone numbers, but I usually find myself texting someone at the P.O. when I need to send a letter or a package, and it sure would be useful not to have to do that all the time.
Also, I have a clear zippered pouch in the back for coupons. I don't do a whole lot of couponing, b/c most coupons are for things I don't buy. But I do save coupons for things like toothbrushes and razors, so that when there's a sale I can stock up. That's something I don't feel like I should ever pay full price for. I also get the coupon booklets from Earth Fare, and there are usually a few things in there I'll buy. So I keep them in the notebook and have them available at all times.
Last couple of things: I bought some of these nifty pen holders and mounted one to the inside back cover of my binder so that I always have a pen. (side note: I do wish I had mounted it to the inside front cover of the binder!). No more hunting all over the house for a pen everytime I need to write something down! I treated myself to pack of these really cute pens. This is mommy's pen and no one else touches it! I also found this cute miniature clip board in the $1 section at target, and I slipped it inside the pocket on the front cover of my binder. Then I mounted it there permanently with double sided tape, so it won't fall out. This holds the shopping list I'm using currently, and right now it is holding some oversized reciepts for work we had done on the house and car recently, until I get to filing them in my Bill Binder for future reference.
Here's how I put it all together.
Do you have a Home Management Notebook? How does it serve you?
I have always loved planners. They're so cute. They're for organized people, which I desperately want to be I can really waste some time looking at them online and in Office Supply Stores! I've bought a handful of them over the years, and I always intend to use them, but it lasts a couple weeks, maybe and then I put them aside. They're not designed for me. I don't have bunches of daily appointments I'm a mom, and before that I was a student. I had class schedules that were pretty unvarying, and a set work schedule. I have always been a list maker, but I don't have much interest in handwriting a bunch of phone numbers and addresses in the back of my planner every time I get a new one, so that was a huge waste of space. I would always look at the daily planning sheets and think of ways I could change it to make it usable for me, but I never actually thought I could do that. With the Home Management Notebook, I can! The great thing about these Journals is that I can tailor them completely to suit what I need. In most ways, I think my HMN is pretty similar to most you will see out there; but it differs in a couple of important ways.
I recently read a statistic that basically said every one minute you spend on organization will save you 10 minutes down the road. I believe it!! If I take the time to sit down in the morning and make a list of things that need to be done that day, most of them will get crossed off. If I just take things as they come, nothing gets done! So I took an inventory of all the hats I wear. I was not being truly efficient in all of those roles! Sometimes I find myself staring into space wondering where to start. Which is the most important? Should I start "A" or "B" first? Which will take longer? It's kind of discouraging when I lose track of time, or when I completely forget about the phone call Nathan asked me to make until he walks in the door at night. Mental clutter. I'm trying to store everything that needs to be done, what time, details in my brain, and then on top of that there are the things that I really would like to do. No wonder my husband teases me about being so forgetful. I really would forget my head if it weren't attached, sometimes!So, the number one reason for making this Home Management Notebook was ... to make me a better, more efficient home manager. That's my job, after all! The best way to do that is to keep everything all in one spot so that I always know exactly where to find what I need.
The first difference in my HMN is that it is only part of a larger system. I'll go more into that later.
Probably the main difference between my HMN and others that I've looked at is size. I've seen them from 1" to 2" binders. The problem I see with that, is they're too bulky to carry around. I want to be able to have mine on hand at all times so that when something comes to mind, I can write it down before I forget ... because I will forget! Or if someone calls me on the phone, I can take notes -- even if I'm not at home. Or if I'm chatting with one of my girlfriends at church and we want to set up a coffee date, or a playdate, or ... whatever, I can check my schedule and/or write stuff down right then. So, instead of a conventional 1" or 2" binder, I opted for 5.5" by 8.5" binder with 1" rings.
This posed a bit of a problem, since about all the printables available either for free, or to purchase online are 8.5"X11". So I made my own. Basically, I found a look that I liked on Life ... Your Way and imitated it. Actually, I downloaded all of the forms from there that I felt pertained to me and used them as models. I copied them pretty closely, but with a few minor alterations and in a smaller size.Then I took other forms that I liked and did the same, modifying the fonts and such so that they matched. It might not be a big deal for some, but I wanted a theme in my binder, not just random forms. Anyway, they will be up here on my blog for free download very soon.
It's important for everyone to come up with their own categories that will work for their specific needs, but here is what I came up with. This is a general overview, later I'll put links with pictures.
The very first page in my HMN is my Mission Statement. I keep it here as a visual reminder every time I open my notebook -- several times a day -- of the best version of myself, and who I am trying to become. The whole reason for having the notebook in the first place!
Calendar: Here I keep a simple monthly calendar with Holidays. It has a column on the far right side for important dates coming up in the next month and an area for notes at the bottom. I also keep my daily dockets in this section. And a list of birthdays and anniversaries by month.
Routines: this is invaluable to me. Instead of a set schedule for every day, I need felxibility, but I can't keep the clutter of the daily mundane in my head, or little things will get over looked. A lot of my ideas for this section came from the FlyLady. A few others came from Pinterest :).
Menus: Here I keep my master meal plans, monthly meal plans, and daily meal plans with shopping list.
Planning: My master to do list, you know, as well as lists of projects I want to complete. I have them categorized by crafting, home improvement & decorating, and personal growth goals (this includes spiritual growth). I also have a list titled Christmas in July. I'll have a post on that later.
Shopping: this is just where I store extra copies of my simple, two column shopping lists.
Notes: Agan, very simple, but I want to have everything in one place. I'm sick of bits of paper here and there and never being able to find the one I need!
Cleaning: This is my cleaning routine. Again, I will have a post later on how this works for me. I took several ideas for this section from FlyLady as well.
Maintenance: Here's where I keep a written record of maintenance done to the van, and to the house. So when something comes up, I know exactly where to find out what we've had done, when, how much it cost, and who did it.
Inventories: I'm keeping an inventory of my pantry and freezer so I never run out of staples, and so that I don't buy duplicates. A quick check to these lists when I'm making my shopping lists will keep me from wasting money, or from frustration when I go to make a mean, only to discover I don't have what I thought I did. Also in this section I will eventually have a complete inventory of clothing that I have for the boys, so if I run across some good sales or a great yard sale, I'll be able to purchase exactly what I need rather than guessing and trying to remember -- more mental clutter!
Garden: Right now this is empty, but I hope to fill it with plans for a vegetable garden, frost dates in spring and fall, and flowers and shrubs that worked and those that didn't.
Blogging: Blogging by the seat of my pants didn't work. It's more mental clutter and I would constantly come up with ideas for blog posts, then forget what they were before I had a chance to write them. Here I keep a comprehensive list of ideas. I'll share my form with you later.
Account Info: This one I went back and forth on for quite a while, I wasn't sure I wanted to keep it in something I carry everywhere, but I need it with me in case I'm out. I you struggle with remembering all my user names and passwords for websites that I use? I'm afraid to ever change them for fear I'll forget what they are and I tend to use the same 2 or 3 for everything. More mental clutter trying to remember all that stuff all the time! I keep another copy in my Bill Pay Binder just in case my HMN is ever lost or stolen, I can quickly change all my passwords and not worry so much about hackers and identity thieves.
Financial: I'm tracking my spending for a while so I can figure out exactly where the money I'm spending is going. We've done this before and it is really effective. I have a really good budget on mint.com which I highly recommend, but sometimes I end up wondering how I went over in "that category" or forget that iIbought this or that. I also think we might have need for a few additional categories in our budget. This is a means to an end and temporary or intermittent, but I think it's important to keep it available if we ever need it.
Contacts: I bought a few pages of business card holders for day planners. They fit perfectly in here so that when we find a contractor we like I can just stick his business card in there and I know who to call if I have a problem! I thought about keeping my Christmas card list here, but I think I'll opt for a shorter list of people I send mail to often. I keep important phone numbers in my cell, so I have absolutely no need for phone numbers, but I usually find myself texting someone at the P.O. when I need to send a letter or a package, and it sure would be useful not to have to do that all the time.
Also, I have a clear zippered pouch in the back for coupons. I don't do a whole lot of couponing, b/c most coupons are for things I don't buy. But I do save coupons for things like toothbrushes and razors, so that when there's a sale I can stock up. That's something I don't feel like I should ever pay full price for. I also get the coupon booklets from Earth Fare, and there are usually a few things in there I'll buy. So I keep them in the notebook and have them available at all times.
Last couple of things: I bought some of these nifty pen holders and mounted one to the inside back cover of my binder so that I always have a pen. (side note: I do wish I had mounted it to the inside front cover of the binder!). No more hunting all over the house for a pen everytime I need to write something down! I treated myself to pack of these really cute pens. This is mommy's pen and no one else touches it! I also found this cute miniature clip board in the $1 section at target, and I slipped it inside the pocket on the front cover of my binder. Then I mounted it there permanently with double sided tape, so it won't fall out. This holds the shopping list I'm using currently, and right now it is holding some oversized reciepts for work we had done on the house and car recently, until I get to filing them in my Bill Binder for future reference.
Here's how I put it all together.
Do you have a Home Management Notebook? How does it serve you?
Tuesday, August 16, 2011
Keeping it Together
Life as a homemaker is sort of overwhelming. Especially if you're a homeschooling mother, or a stay-at-home mom trying to work a job from home, but let's face it, even if "all you do" is stay home with your preschool kids, that is a monumental task. You're investing in lives that you hope will make a difference in the world someday. You hope they'll reach others for Christ, that they'll get decent jobs, be contributing members of society. You pray that they will be lovers of Jesus, that they'll make a difference. But right now, it's hard to see past the oatmeal sticking to the pot in the sink as you build a puzzle with your little one.
Then there are those who work a full time job outside the home, and wonder where they can make time to spend with their families while still keeping an orderly home, and finding something nutritious to put on the table every night.
I finally came to the conclusion a few months ago that staying home with my kids is not "all I do" It is a full time job and I am on call 24/7. And on top of that I need to manage to find time to do my other full time job: cook, clean, and keep house. And not just any cooking, I care tremendously about what goes into the little bodies I'm growing. I need to prepare healthful food to satisfy my conscience. Mess, dirt and clutter bug me, but not as much as they bother my husband when he comes home from a stressful day at work, so I need to find time to do the things that are important for Nathan to see when he walks in the door everyday too.
To top that off, there are the little things that I notice need to be done as I'm flying from one thing to the next during the day, but don't have time to stop and fix right then and there. Take the flowers in the front that need to be deadheaded. It irritates me everytime I walk past that garden to go out somewhere or when I come back home, but as soon as I get inside it's completly forgotten in the thick of all I have to do indoors. And my blog, which I am passionate about, but don't do nearly enough with! I wish I could carve out at least an extra hour per day to spend working on this.
Finally, last but certainly not least my third job: the one room school house I run. A daily adventure is that! There are so many books and binders and activities for all levels I had to find a way to make it all streamlined and orderly.
So, how in the world are we moms supposed to keep it all together?? I'm working on some ideas that, so far, are helping me stay on track. It's my binder system. It started out as simply an idea for a Home Management Binder, and that is the backbone of the system, but also included are my Daily Working Binder, and my Student Evaluation Binder (which are my homeschool sanity) and my Prayer Journal; because what's a mom, or a wife, or a teacher without some daily guidance from above? As well as a Recipe Binder. In the next several posts I will be revealing the system I created. Most of the ideas were stolen from here and there and tweaked to serve my needs. I hope you might find this useful as well and tweak my ideas to meet your specific household dilemmas. Stay tuned for ideas and pictures!
Then there are those who work a full time job outside the home, and wonder where they can make time to spend with their families while still keeping an orderly home, and finding something nutritious to put on the table every night.
I finally came to the conclusion a few months ago that staying home with my kids is not "all I do" It is a full time job and I am on call 24/7. And on top of that I need to manage to find time to do my other full time job: cook, clean, and keep house. And not just any cooking, I care tremendously about what goes into the little bodies I'm growing. I need to prepare healthful food to satisfy my conscience. Mess, dirt and clutter bug me, but not as much as they bother my husband when he comes home from a stressful day at work, so I need to find time to do the things that are important for Nathan to see when he walks in the door everyday too.
To top that off, there are the little things that I notice need to be done as I'm flying from one thing to the next during the day, but don't have time to stop and fix right then and there. Take the flowers in the front that need to be deadheaded. It irritates me everytime I walk past that garden to go out somewhere or when I come back home, but as soon as I get inside it's completly forgotten in the thick of all I have to do indoors. And my blog, which I am passionate about, but don't do nearly enough with! I wish I could carve out at least an extra hour per day to spend working on this.
Finally, last but certainly not least my third job: the one room school house I run. A daily adventure is that! There are so many books and binders and activities for all levels I had to find a way to make it all streamlined and orderly.
So, how in the world are we moms supposed to keep it all together?? I'm working on some ideas that, so far, are helping me stay on track. It's my binder system. It started out as simply an idea for a Home Management Binder, and that is the backbone of the system, but also included are my Daily Working Binder, and my Student Evaluation Binder (which are my homeschool sanity) and my Prayer Journal; because what's a mom, or a wife, or a teacher without some daily guidance from above? As well as a Recipe Binder. In the next several posts I will be revealing the system I created. Most of the ideas were stolen from here and there and tweaked to serve my needs. I hope you might find this useful as well and tweak my ideas to meet your specific household dilemmas. Stay tuned for ideas and pictures!
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Thursday, April 21, 2011
Nip It In the Bud. A Thought On Discipline
Lately here I've been thinking it's about time to put my toddler in a toddler bed. I've been dreading it because , as I told my husband, I just know he's going to get out and I'm going to have to spank him. A lot. And I don't really want to right now. But, I had no choice when he started hanging out on the front rail of the crib just because he could. So we took off the front of the crib and put on the toddler bed rail. Then we took a video of his first impression of his new bed. At first he didn't see it, then we could barely get him off of it.
Still, I had this picture in my mind of my hard headed, strong willed 22 month old getting out of bed repeatedly every night from now until kingdom come! Fortunately, God is merciful to me, a sinner. And even when I don't pray about the piddly stuff He comes to my aid.
I had the thought to sit at the top of the stairs just outsided his bedroom door with my trusty "spankin' hose" and the first time he climbed out I was in there as soon as his feet hit the floor. No warnings just a swat to his upper thigh. Not too hard, but enough to sting a bit and leave a mental impression. He got out once more. I met him with the same swift swat and that was it. Nap time was in the pack'n'play next day but I sat at the top of the stairs the next night too. Turns out I didn't have to. Not once has that child climbed out of that bed since. And not only that, he doesn't get out on his own in the morning either. He simply sits cheerfully in his bed talking to himself until I come to get him.
Not only was this good for Wyatt, but it was good for the middle two as well. They are both great at making up excuses to get out of bed. We are usually too lazy to go up there each time and typically warn them until we're angry. Then one of us will go up and yell (we don't spank if we're angry. When we spank we want it to be in love not anger) But being that I was already up there I just hopped up and swatted them too. Just a couple of nights of consistent discipline and bedtime in our house is a much more pleasant experience for everyone.
The thing is, this is something I already know. I just fail to practice it the way I should. Call it laziness. Call it distraction. It's probably some of both. Regardless, I forget how well it works! This is what Michael Pearl calls "training". The idea is that you set up a situation in which you know you child is bound to fail, then you sit back and wait for him to do it. Not that you get a chance to spank, but so you get a chance to teach them what is and is not acceptable behavior before they have to discover it for themselves and recieve discipline for it. The child learns the meaning of the word "no", he learns what is not tolerated, and above all he learns self control. Rather than catching your young child in the act and explaining that it is not ok only to catch him at it again, at which point you wonder if he understood; you set up a situation where you are ready and waiting. As soon as he acts you reprove him repeatedly until you are sure he understands, and he no longer attempts to engage in that behavior. Then if you catch him at it you know that he knows he is wrong whether or not he can verbalize it. In good conscience you can spank him, just hard enough, and be pretty sure he is not going to do that again. If you don't set up training sessions and catch him in the act, he may have already been enjoying himself for quite some time, thinking everything is fine. Imagine his surprise when you show up and take away his fun. He's only going to look for another opportunity. But if before he has a chance to enjoy said behavior, just as he is reaching for it he recieves a quick swat and a gentle "no", he will relate that activity or thing and the word "no" with the pain of that swat and exercise self control in the future.
I like to combine this principle with the Ezzo's principal of parenting inside the funnle in which you allow only the mobility and freedoms your child is able to developmentally handle. I make good use of my pack'n'play when I can't be attentive to the youngest, but even so he's getting bigger and I've been lax in my training. I've got my work cut out for me!
Still, I had this picture in my mind of my hard headed, strong willed 22 month old getting out of bed repeatedly every night from now until kingdom come! Fortunately, God is merciful to me, a sinner. And even when I don't pray about the piddly stuff He comes to my aid.
I had the thought to sit at the top of the stairs just outsided his bedroom door with my trusty "spankin' hose" and the first time he climbed out I was in there as soon as his feet hit the floor. No warnings just a swat to his upper thigh. Not too hard, but enough to sting a bit and leave a mental impression. He got out once more. I met him with the same swift swat and that was it. Nap time was in the pack'n'play next day but I sat at the top of the stairs the next night too. Turns out I didn't have to. Not once has that child climbed out of that bed since. And not only that, he doesn't get out on his own in the morning either. He simply sits cheerfully in his bed talking to himself until I come to get him.
Not only was this good for Wyatt, but it was good for the middle two as well. They are both great at making up excuses to get out of bed. We are usually too lazy to go up there each time and typically warn them until we're angry. Then one of us will go up and yell (we don't spank if we're angry. When we spank we want it to be in love not anger) But being that I was already up there I just hopped up and swatted them too. Just a couple of nights of consistent discipline and bedtime in our house is a much more pleasant experience for everyone.
The thing is, this is something I already know. I just fail to practice it the way I should. Call it laziness. Call it distraction. It's probably some of both. Regardless, I forget how well it works! This is what Michael Pearl calls "training". The idea is that you set up a situation in which you know you child is bound to fail, then you sit back and wait for him to do it. Not that you get a chance to spank, but so you get a chance to teach them what is and is not acceptable behavior before they have to discover it for themselves and recieve discipline for it. The child learns the meaning of the word "no", he learns what is not tolerated, and above all he learns self control. Rather than catching your young child in the act and explaining that it is not ok only to catch him at it again, at which point you wonder if he understood; you set up a situation where you are ready and waiting. As soon as he acts you reprove him repeatedly until you are sure he understands, and he no longer attempts to engage in that behavior. Then if you catch him at it you know that he knows he is wrong whether or not he can verbalize it. In good conscience you can spank him, just hard enough, and be pretty sure he is not going to do that again. If you don't set up training sessions and catch him in the act, he may have already been enjoying himself for quite some time, thinking everything is fine. Imagine his surprise when you show up and take away his fun. He's only going to look for another opportunity. But if before he has a chance to enjoy said behavior, just as he is reaching for it he recieves a quick swat and a gentle "no", he will relate that activity or thing and the word "no" with the pain of that swat and exercise self control in the future.
I like to combine this principle with the Ezzo's principal of parenting inside the funnle in which you allow only the mobility and freedoms your child is able to developmentally handle. I make good use of my pack'n'play when I can't be attentive to the youngest, but even so he's getting bigger and I've been lax in my training. I've got my work cut out for me!
Monday, March 28, 2011
Entering the World of Lapbooks
I'm not really sure why they call them "lapbooks"; they are basically a file folder (or 2 or 3) that hold projects and information on a particular subject or "unit". I think most homeschoolers use them for Unit Studies in which they use a broad subject to encompass all aspects of their schooling. For example The Solar System could be your unit, while you were studying The Solar System , which is obviously science related, your child could write a Bible verse about space or creation for Bible and for handwriting practice, maybe a creative writing project about the planets, adding the 9 family since there are 9 planets etc.
When I started on my homeschooling adventure I was teaching my eager 4 year old to read. He had played with the Fridge Phonics game endlessly, and after he learned all 26 Uppercase letters, their sounds and the alphabet song basically on his own, I purchased him the set of lowercase letters which came with a comparison chart to put on the fridge. He literally learned them all in a week. I knew then that it was time to teach him to read. I'm not one to pass up an opportunity like that. At 18 or 20 months this same child was potty trained. Not because I pushed him to be, but because I was willing to go along with it when he tinkled on the potty on his own. After that he ran around naked for 3 days and the deed was done. I'm not saying every child is like that. Heaven knows my others have not been! I'm trying to give you perspective on my oldest son.
So, anyway, with an oldest child like that I was very driven and had high goals for my homeschool. I still do, but my perspective is changing just a bit. To this point I have been all about books. I'm still all about books, but I'm excited about adding in some new stuff, particularly for the benefit of my younger "students" who don't read....yet.
When I look at preschool and early elementary curriculums I'm usually a little discouraged. I feel like they are so general that it's almost not worth it for my kids. I want to delve in deep! Let them catch what they can, and what they don't will be caught next time around when we cover the material again in another venue, as I'm sure we will. So far this has worked for me. But Apologia Science was a little bit much for us this year. So was The Story of the Thirteen Colonies, our history book for this year (at least). This is because we mostly just read aloud, there were few "experiments" and we found ourselves getting bogged down.
At Christmas I wanted to do a Christmas Unit. I went to the Library each week and got countless books about Christmas around the world and the origins of Santa Claus but I had no way to document what we did other than a book list. The kids got confused and bored with all the facts and timelines. We didn't really do any projects so the whole thing really felt like a flop.
Several weeks ago I met for coffee with a homeschooling friend. We've sort of been working through Flying Creatures of the Fifth Day together but separately. We were trying to come up with a plan as we leave birds and delve into flying insects. In the process she introduced me to lapbooks. She's a much more hands on homeschooler. She has a special needs child and really does a fantastic job; she's so creative. Here is her blog in case you're interested.
I sure do wish I'd known about Lapbooks at Christmas time. Anyway, for two weeks in March we did some projects and learned about Ireland, St. Patrick's Day and Rainbows. It wasn't exhaustive, and I felt entirely disorganized in the process, but it was a good start and I'm pretty excited about how it turned out.
When I started on my homeschooling adventure I was teaching my eager 4 year old to read. He had played with the Fridge Phonics game endlessly, and after he learned all 26 Uppercase letters, their sounds and the alphabet song basically on his own, I purchased him the set of lowercase letters which came with a comparison chart to put on the fridge. He literally learned them all in a week. I knew then that it was time to teach him to read. I'm not one to pass up an opportunity like that. At 18 or 20 months this same child was potty trained. Not because I pushed him to be, but because I was willing to go along with it when he tinkled on the potty on his own. After that he ran around naked for 3 days and the deed was done. I'm not saying every child is like that. Heaven knows my others have not been! I'm trying to give you perspective on my oldest son.
So, anyway, with an oldest child like that I was very driven and had high goals for my homeschool. I still do, but my perspective is changing just a bit. To this point I have been all about books. I'm still all about books, but I'm excited about adding in some new stuff, particularly for the benefit of my younger "students" who don't read....yet.
When I look at preschool and early elementary curriculums I'm usually a little discouraged. I feel like they are so general that it's almost not worth it for my kids. I want to delve in deep! Let them catch what they can, and what they don't will be caught next time around when we cover the material again in another venue, as I'm sure we will. So far this has worked for me. But Apologia Science was a little bit much for us this year. So was The Story of the Thirteen Colonies, our history book for this year (at least). This is because we mostly just read aloud, there were few "experiments" and we found ourselves getting bogged down.
At Christmas I wanted to do a Christmas Unit. I went to the Library each week and got countless books about Christmas around the world and the origins of Santa Claus but I had no way to document what we did other than a book list. The kids got confused and bored with all the facts and timelines. We didn't really do any projects so the whole thing really felt like a flop.
Several weeks ago I met for coffee with a homeschooling friend. We've sort of been working through Flying Creatures of the Fifth Day together but separately. We were trying to come up with a plan as we leave birds and delve into flying insects. In the process she introduced me to lapbooks. She's a much more hands on homeschooler. She has a special needs child and really does a fantastic job; she's so creative. Here is her blog in case you're interested.
I sure do wish I'd known about Lapbooks at Christmas time. Anyway, for two weeks in March we did some projects and learned about Ireland, St. Patrick's Day and Rainbows. It wasn't exhaustive, and I felt entirely disorganized in the process, but it was a good start and I'm pretty excited about how it turned out.
| This is the front cover of the Lapbook. My 3 yr old decided to color on it while I was getting the camera. |
| Inside the right flap is our Bible verse about Rainbows. |
While I do feel like some of the things we did were just so we could put something in the lapbook, some of what we did really pushed us--like our timeline of St. Patrick's life. Counting by three's was relevant. Something green was more for fun, since Silas has known his colors for many years now.
| We added a flap to the center section so that we could fit more stuff in. I will do this a little differently in the future, but for now this works. |
We created a pocket for his creative writing story to go in. The pocket also served as a place for our Irish Reading List. Here is an example of how this lapbook pushed us to another level. This was Silas' first creative writing assignment. Until now everything has been copy work for him. He did a great job! We did have some tears about rewriting for a perfect final draft, but overall I'm very pleased with his work.
We talked about how rainbows are formed, and made a rainbow with a mirror, a glass of water and a flashlight. The pictures of that didn't come out very well. We also talked about primary and secondary colors and formed a "rainbow" in a glass. Then we documented our work. We put this in our lapbook too. I just realized the picture of our color wheel isn't here. If you look closely you can see it in the first picture at the top of this post.
| Lastly we talked about Geography. This is the back of the lapbook, and a picture of Silas building the Europe GeoPuzzle to the left. |
I don't think I will do a complete Unit Study again, I felt like I was doing things not because they were relevant to us, but because they fit with the study, which isn't really how I want our school to function, but I am loving this new venue and I am definitely going to use this to document our work as we study butterflies next month!
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